My boy in a skirt.
Gus loves skirts. A while ago I bought him a few used twirly skirts that I figured he could use like tutus. He really took to them and wore one very regularly in the evening and on the weekend. Then it got a bit colder again, the skirt got put away, and no one thought much of it.
Yesterday we were getting dressed to run errands and Lesley gave him the choice of two pairs of shorts. He shoved her out of the way, said “No Mommy. Skirt.” and got a skirt out of his closet. Today I got him dressed to head to a friend’s birthday party and then he found the skirt on the couch and insisted he wear that instead. So he did.
It’s an interesting thing, a boy in a skirt. In no way do I think that he should not be able to wear one yet I hear myself explaining it to other people “He’s into skirts big time today and insisted he wear it” and having the progressive parents we know mention it. A man at the party making small talk misgendered him repeatedly. I decided months ago to not go out of my way to correct people when they misgender him because I feel like it is saying there is something wrong with being labeled a girl. No one at this party thought it was a big deal. No one at the grocery store realizes he is a boy.
But what’s next is where I struggle. There is a family in town that has twin four year olds. They are boy/girl twins but are both always dressed as “girls”. A year ago I would have thought this was odd. Sure, I am find with boys wearing skirts but all the time? That’s too much, I thought.
And now I figure out how to actually parent my child. We give him limited choices when picking out his clothes some times (some times we suck at this). Do I offer a skirt every time? I need to buy more skirts… Should I let him try dresses? “Let him”. That sounds so awful. For now, any time he asks he can wear it. I think I am fine with that. Yet I am still nervous about the day he wants to wear a skirt to daycare.