You can’t, you won’t, and you don’t stop
When Gus had his six month pediatrician visit she said a few things that really stuck out to me. First, when talking about sleep, she said if we wanted to do any sleep training we had to do it right then or wait until he was about 15 months because between 9 months and 12 months things happen so rapidly that it is unfair to kiddos to try to do sleep training. The second thing she said was that Gus was going to hit gross motor milestones early and to not be worried about other stuff – he was spending all of his brain energy doing that.
That appointment was a month ago and those things all make sense now. Last week he started crawling. It started with a few crawls and a lot of pulling himself around army crawl style. Then, all of a sudden, he was able to sit up from laying down. This week he is doing more actual crawling because he realized that he can better change positions from that stance. He’s also pulling himself up on things. He’s not super sturdy but he can do it. He’s been cruising us when we are laying down with him but yesterday cruised a chair.
Last week he also got his first tooth. (Big week!) Yesterday we noticed the second is coming in. He handle the first one well and is doing okay with the second although last night was a rough night (he also got a shot yesterday though so maybe that was some of it). He’s had no fevers, no major signs of pain, and minimal disrupted sleep.
There are things he can’t do as well. We printed out the 9 month ASQ (Ages and Stages Questionnaire) and filled it out so we know what kind of things we should be looking for him to do in the next couple of months. He’s actually got most of it down but a few things stood out to us: 1) His fine motor skills are not quite there. He can do many of the things asked (like pick up a string) but has trouble with the pinching motion for food. I think he still scores fine but we’d love to see that improve. 2) He talks A LOT but I don’t feel he is close to word communication. The other day he said “doggie” but he repeated it after me. I don’t count words until he is using them to communicate. So we’re working on labeling things more when talking to him (“See the doggie? Look at that doggie!” “Kitty!” “Is that your kitty?”) 3) Clapping. It asked if he claps. We had never shown him clapping. Clearly doing that now.
The fourth thing is a bit odd. It asks if he responds appropriately when you tell him “No”. I’m really struggling with this one. I hate the idea of the first word he understands being “no”. But we talked about it and can’t come up with a good alternative. When he is hair pulling or hitting me in the face then I need to tell him no. He needs a command that is understandable to all situations. I wish there was a better alternative but I can’t find it. So this week, we sadly started telling him “no.”
But for the most part he continues to soar. I didn’t really understand this about babies – It’s not like they can crawl and then three months later they can walk. They can crawl and then after that they spend ever waking hour working on walking. We’ve hit the point where there are not breaks between development, just a kid who is braining so hard to get to what is next.
We’re a little terrified.